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To the single mom at Christmas
I still vividly remember the last Christmas we spent with my daughter’s father. It was also the last day we saw him. Since then, a lot has changed. My daughter and I have lived with my mother over the years in our small house and every year we pull out our fake Christmas tree and…
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Curly hair: Teach your daughters to embrace it
When I was a little girl, my mother had no idea what to do with my hair. I only remember her watering my hair down and combing it through and at one point taking me to get it thinned out. As a teen, I hated my hair. I burned it straight, cut it all off…
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Every single mom needs a tribe
Why you need to find a circle of women who get you My girlfriends and I have a Facebook messenger group chat. It’s the place where we vent about the terrible moments with our kids, the painful parts of dating, awkward visits to the gynecologist, funny memes, awful insider jokes, inspirational quotes and prayers. The…
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This halloween let them be themselves!
My daughter turned into a reindeer this week. I watched my mother focused in front of her sewing machine as she used the fleece fabric my daughter selected at Wal-Mart and the faux fur trim we picked up at JOANN to make her Halloween costume from start to finish — a skill that I’m learning…
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I’m a [happy] single mom, not your MILF
When Ali’s dad and I broke up, I knew dating would be hard. First, I knew I needed time to decompress and there were many things I still wanted to accomplish. I was busy working full time as a reporter and finishing school and it felt impossible to share my time with anyone. But, of…
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Yes, I would choose to be a mom again and again
I think most people are surprised when they ask me if I want more kids and I say, “Yes! I wish I could have another.” I think I live in a culture where most people my age don’t want kids because of their own childhood experiences or because of the challenging stories about parenting they…
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A mother’s body: Yes, I have stretch marks and saggy breasts.
I won’t lie, I sometimes have a love-hate relationship with the stretch marks on my body and my saggy breasts. After I had my daughter, my stomach was so loose and flabby and hung so low it literally looked like dough — no exaggeration. My stretch marks were much, much darker and when my daughter’s…
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My experience with love after trauma
“I love you because you are so strong” is my favorite compliment to receive from my significant other. It delights me because after a lot of disappointment, pain, trauma and chaos I had to work so hard to find the necessary peace within myself. Any and every trauma survivor deserves all the peace and security…
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What I’ve learned from daily meditation
From the moment I wake up, I’m consumed by thoughts about work, relationships, my finances, my kid, the bill I didn’t pay, the call I need to make, making dinner, can I make it to the gym? Am I a good mom? Why did I have to yell at my kid yesterday? You get the…
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On being single and waiting
Let me start off by saying that I am celibate. For many people, both men and women, living a celibate life is weird, especially in your 20s — a time when most are just happy to be included in all the “fun.” For me, my 20s have been about self-discovery, healing, having faith and…
Mommy Finger, Baby Finger
My idea of a family didn’t go as planned—but that’s ok. This is where I share our messy, real, and love-filled story.
Mommy Finger, Baby Finger is a place of honesty, love, healing, and faith.
It’s the story of me and Ali.
Mommy Finger, Baby Finger 