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Adapting to change is hard, but necessary
We visited Arizona the weekend of Halloween, and it was a very emotional trip. For the past year and a half, we hadn’t seen our friends and family, so this was what Ali and I both needed. We surprised my grandmother with our arrival, and as I’d guessed, she was in total disbelief. And she…
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More Than a Pretty Face: Workplace Lessons
I vividly remember the first time I was judged for being pretty. It was my first day as a staff writer at a university. I was in my early 20s. I loved wearing heels, doing my makeup, and putting outfits together for work, and I was no different walking into this new job that day.…
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How I’m Parenting with PTSD, Finding Freedom
When I first told my sisters at church about my lifelong struggle with suicidal thoughts, I cried like I had never cried before. But I found that another sister understood me. She had walked along the same road I had. When I was very young, I looked out my window and asked God to take…
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A Healing Girl Summer: Inner Child Edition
We’ve pretty much all heard the phrase “hot girl summer,” which basically implies unleashing your sexy side. I’ve decided I’m going through a healing girl summer. This summer, I felt like I needed extra self-care, time to reconnect with myself, time to (learn to) be selfish, and time to feel all the emotions I’ve been…
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How I’m Modeling Vulnerability as a Mom
The last two months have been a whirlwind. The truth is, after my breakup, I took some time to reset, recharge and refocus. That’s why I haven’t posted in over two months. But, in this season of processing that breakup, I found that life has actually gave me the opportunity to embrace vulnerability, take courage…
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Giving it to God: Letting Go When it Hurts
The last month has been kind of crazy. This week I turned 30 years old. I also found myself signing papers for a new home on my birthday instead of celebrating my birthday in Hawaii as I’d initially planned. My mom loves to say, “God has a reason for allowing things to happen.” We’re…
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Christians get depressed, too.
Like many Christians, I have felt shame and guilt over experiencing depression and loneliness. Recently, when I attended church, I experienced a revelation after our pastor gave a powerful sermon: there are many suffering believers.
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Riding the waves of grief
I don’t think anyone can predict how they will grieve, and sometimes grief is not what you expected it to be. I have learned that grief comes in waves. Sometimes the water is calm, and other times it’s overwhelming. All we can do is keep swimming …
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Why I’m embracing rest
Last year required every ounce of strength and courage in me. Toward the end of 2021, I was exhausted. So, instead of focusing on my goals for the new year, I chose rest to start off 2022. I literally did the least the first week of January … and you know what happened? Life went…
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Creating space for gratitude in a daily journal
I have to be honest here. I have many, many journals I’ve kept over the years. My daughter and I joke that someday, when I’m no longer on this earth, she’ll have access to all my secrets – all my “good stuff.” Journaling has truly changed my life. For me, this typically happens early in…
Mommy Finger, Baby Finger
My idea of a family didn’t go as planned—but that’s ok. This is where I share our messy, real, and love-filled story.
Mommy Finger, Baby Finger is a place of honesty, love, healing, and faith.
It’s the story of me and Ali.
